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Just because you’ve failed, it doesn’t mean you’re a failure.
Failure is a cold, depressing, unforgiving place. J.K. Rowling’s Dementors personify the condition brilliantly:
Most of us, at some time, have been there. And our fear of failure is so great, that we tend to edit out of our lives any sign of weakness, any indication that we might be heading in that direction. We avoid situations where we might be seen to fail. Or adults do at least.
Babies don’t. For them, failing is absolutely normal. How many times do they struggle to get to their feet, and then take those first few steps, only to fall? That’s not failure. It’s a learning experience. And it just makes them more determined to succeed next time. And when they do succeed, that look of sheer delight as they turn to you, says it all. Triumph!
The same with language. Babies copy sounds, learn to make words, then small sentences, and realize their power. ‘Me want cup.’ It’s wrong of course … but who cares! It’s a step on the road to communication, and we celebrate with them.
It’s why young children are usually great at learning foreign languages, and most adults aren’t. When you’re young, failing is just part of learning, so you’re free to experiment, and you don’t feel bad when you get it wrong. But as adults, we hate to expose ourselves and let others see we might have made a mistake. We learn to be unadventurous.
And yet most of us yearn for adventure. The high points in our lives, the moments we relish, are when we took on a challenge – physical, mental, spiritual – and proved to ourselves that we could still triumph. Starting a business is, for me, one of those adventures. I know it’s likely that I’m going to fail at times – it wouldn’t be an adventure if it was safe. But I’m an adult. How do I guard against the danger of total failure? How do I make sure that even if I miss my footing, I don’t go crashing down onto the rocks below?
My strategy is to start by planning my destination – exactly where I want to be a month or a year from now. Let me illustrate by showing you the destination for my new business, Coloring The Wind (which is selling ‘finely-crafted inspiration’, poetry presented as wall-art). The first target has to be that I can afford to support myself – or there’ll be no business. This ‘destination statement’ would be too vague:
There’s no time-scale. And ‘viable’ is entirely subjective – it could mean something entirely different to me than to you. (I may even have two different points of view myself .. depending on the spin I want to give ‘viable’ at the time!) This is better, but still not good enough:
But what’s a ‘decent living wage’? Again it’s subjective. And my destination doesn’t define how I’m going to make that payment. Perhaps I could do it by borrowing from the bank – but that’s not the intention. So here’s an example of a destination statement that works.
Fine. So that’s the destination. Now how am I going to get there in the 30-day period? I list my key responsibilities (usually around 10-15 of them) for the period, and for each one I set measurable targets – targets that’ll help me to reach my destination. Here are mine:
- Find talented creatives ready to contribute
- Reach agreement with at least 5 poets
- Reach agreement with at least 3 visualizers
- Publish new products in store
- Release at least 10 new products
- Diversify product lines in store
- Set up store with at least 1 stream for poetry which is not entrepreneur-oriented
- For each product, introduce at least one variant to poster format (e.g. stationery, cards)
- Learn how to use Zazzle effectively
- Spend 8 hours researching Zazzle best-practice: then revise this objective
- Win support of CTW advocates
- Contact 50 potential advocates, asking them to share CTW’s info
- At least 25 advocates have shared CTW info at least 4 times in month
- Contact each advocate at least once a week
- Build CTW mailing-list
- At least 150 subscribers
- At least 75 per week open newsletter, and click on a link at least once
- Set up marketing affiliates
- Blog and mail subscribers once to explain benefits of affiliation with CTW
- At least 5 affiliate CTW shops opened on Facebook or blogs
- Manage CTW social media campaign
- Spend no more than 3 hours a day on CTW blogging / social media
- Publish at least 1 blog-post per day
- Merge CTW Facebook/Google+ pages into a single page driven by users
- Prepare to hire CTW team
- Preliminary achievement plans for CTW positions published by Aug 17
- Manage essential administration
- Complete declaration to US tax authorities so that Zazzle can pay us.
This is the basis for an Achievement Plan for my job. The next step is to add a list of the priority Personal Qualities I’ll need to get the job done. I draw these from my summary of Personal Qualities and later, I’ll check my performance against the descriptors in the Personal Qualities Framework. I’m listing:
So what do I do next? I stick this list of responsibilities and qualities right under my nose, so that every couple of hours, I can pause for a minute, think about what I’m doing, and make sure that it’s helping me to meet at least one of my targets. It stops me from getting distracted.
Then, at the beginning of each day, I run through my list of targets and work out my priorities. I’ll also be looking for any early warnings that I might fail to hit a target. What am I going to do about it? Should I change the target? If so will that stop me from reaching my destination? Or should I just find a better way to do it? Do I need to ask someone for advice? Is there something I need to learn?
When you set measurable targets, there’s always the risk that you won’t hit them – and I probably will fail – or at least need to readjust – in some areas. But the point of this achievement-centred approach is to spot problems early, and to address them before they become catastrophes. That’s how to fail successfully – and how not to be a failure.
So now it’s your turn. What’s your Achievement Plan?





Great post Alan! I will be starting to work on my Achievement Plan soon. I’ll let you know what I come up with!
When you do, Candy, I’d like to take a quick look. Seriously. Before I started working on Coloring The Wind – I’d spent a year working on a new website, helping people to create Achievement Plans and then use them for hiring, self- and formal appraisal, career-planning. … it just seemed a better way to show it all working in action like this, instead of talking about it theoretically. Everyone’s job is different of course, but I have in mind that some day, it would be a good idea to build a user-contributed set of templates for common jobs – which people could then adapt for their own job. Not now of course – because the focus has to stay on Coloring The Wind. But at some point …
Being a creative person I am able to turn my “failures” in to new ideas, only problem is I then have more ideas than I can handle and end up failing at more of them. I like your structured Achievement Plan and will create one to follow, but I love your notion that even with a plan it is ok if I fail and learn every now and then. Great reminder.
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Kama – I know exactly where you’re coming from. The more creative you are, I think, the harder it is to stop the flow of ideas. You want to go everywhere, stop where it’s fun, be a brilliant butterfly. And you don’t want to be confined or restrained. I find I have to put these kinds of controls in place if I want to achieve anything … and then continue to have the freedom to float.
Achievement Planning isn’t just for us though. I feel very strongly that most people at work don’t really know what they’re expected to achieve. The experts all talk about the importance of empowering the employee, but it’s very difficult to feel empowered if you don’t really know what constitutes success or failure. Only when you know what failure really means, are you in a position where you can do anything about it.
That makes Achievement Planning a curious multi-faceted tool. It constrains people who might be flying too high for their own good, and liberates those who are still stuck back in the shell.
Ohh Good point “constrains people who might be flying too high for their own good, and liberates those who are still stuck back in the shell.” I know both of those. Balance is the key isn’t it. This is also a good point “it’s very difficult to feel empowered if you don’t really know what constitutes success or failure” and very important I agree. When I start a new job I always ask quite firmly to be told immediately if I make a mistake so I can learn from it.
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Great tips! And so funny that you posted this on the same day I posted about the lies gurus tell you. I think some of us feel like failures because we are measuring ourselves against people who have been in business for 15 years and are finally successful, and they tell us we just need to pay them so we can get to that success, too. But there is a fair amount of time you still need to put some work in and get your stuff straight.

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This is similar to my business plan combined with my sales funnel. I make a to do list each week as I find that often my goals or the steps I need to take change.
I like your format and calling it an achievement plan. Guess I’ll have to make some changes

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I’m liking “achievement plan” rather than goals!
I’m a bit concerned you’re aiming for the unachievable with the email marketing though…
Generally, email converts much better than social and search put together. The challenge is building your opt ins, so you do need a very definate plan for that.
Even with the opt ins, a list of 150 and 75 people opening and clicking… am I reading that right? Well thats a 50% open rate and almost 100% click through. 50% open is a high standard, over 20% is considered “good”. 100% CTR, I’m not going to say impossible, let’s say very unlikely.
If you want to have a look at average benchmarks you can set targets from, sign-up.to released their UK data recently http://www.sign-up.to/email-marketing-benchmarks/email-benchmark-2012/
Sorry to be the nag (again!)
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Jan – that’s not nagging at all. It’s extremely helpful. I hadn’t researched what others are achieving, only looked at the results I’ve been getting so far. I’m fairly comfortably exceeding the 50% open rate at the moment .. although I’m a bit concerned at how AWeber calculates the figure after my open rate was over 100% one week. Looks like they’re counting multiple opens from the same person. Click-through is lower, averaging around 30% of mails sent (over 60% of opens). There are all sorts of reasons why my figures might be higher. HROomph is still pretty new, and there’s been a good deal of passion from followers at the moment, which might die down after the first flush of interest.
But until now my email marketing has been spectacularly uninspiring. I haven’t really offered anything special – it’s the same content I’ve been posting.
I agree that the target of 150 opt-ins is very high – there are only 10 CTW subscribers at present, and even after two intensive months, the HROomph list is only about 25% of this. But with an achievement focus – knowing what my income needs to be – I know that I have to get to something like that number of opt-ins if I’m going to hit my sales target … unless I could get half the number buying twice as much product. From there I work backwards. If I need to do exceptionally well in winning subscribers, I have to have something exceptional to offer. And since the opt-in rate I’ve achieved so far is relatively low, then I have to change the approach, probably co-opt others (i.e. advocates) to help bring me the subscribers I need.
Although I’ve isolated the responsibilities and their targets in the A-Plan, in reality they all need to work together as I execute. The advocate and affiliate targets help to secure the email subscribers. The quality of the content as well as product diversification will help to attract interest (particularly if I can persuade a ‘name’ to get involved). And I’ll need to sprinkle some marketing magic into the mix as well – to make the subscription offer not just attractive, but compelling. (Don’t ask me how yet – but I’m thinking hard.)
It’s a good illustration of the way an achievement-focused approach works: starting with the critical targets, determining the strategy that seems most likely to achieve those targets, and then, on a daily/weekly basis taking the action that will bring the strategy home. And re-calibrating, or even changing the parts, when it’s not working.
I don’t want to say that I can defy conventional thinking – I really do need to take account of others’ experience. But my front-to-back approach has often been successful in the past. I’ll leave the targets where they are for the moment, and let you know when you’re right
It’s great you are achieving over 50% Alan, I know what you mean about the stats too – I’m with Getresponse and they throw some odd ones in there sometimes!
I use this type of data when working with my clients. There’s one thing to be challenged to reach a goal and another for it to be out of reach.
None of us are average, at least I hope not! Let’s be honest, you’re already flying in the face of conventional thinking by actually having an email list and planning how to make the most of it. How many e-retailers do you see where an opt in isn’t hidden away as a second thought?
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Alan – Wonderful post, Alan. Failure is only that if it prevents us from moving forward with the new knowledge that ‘that didn’t work; now I’ll try this’. If we stop moving forward when an intended goal wasn’t reached, that’s the failure! If we keep trying then we do so with just a bit more insight.
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